Friday, June 26, 2009

My Bubble Has Been Popped

My heart has been heavy this week as my little bubble had the world enter it's sphere... between the attack on my blog, then hearing of Jon and Kate's divorce, and Michael Jackson's death, I have had several thoughts just wandering through my mind.

The first thing I thought of yesterday afternoon when I heard about Michael Jackson's death was that unless he repented, he only admitted the truth yesterday. The truth is that every knee shall bow and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord. (Phil. 2: 10-11) Instead of hearing, "Well done, good and faithful servant." He heard, "I never knew you. Depart from me." (Matthew 25: 1-13) And started his eternity in hell.

However, if he repented prior to his death, all his sins were forgiven in that instant. Although he did some terribly awful things, I hope he did receive forgiveness, and will spend eternity trying to make up for lost time of praising our Savior.

The second is for Jon and Kate. We do not have TV here in our bubble. I only see it when I have babies, and therefore am in the hospital, or staying overnight in Cincinnati with Mercy. That is more than enough for me, thank you very much. I have only seen maybe two or three Jon and Kate episodes. Those that I saw, made my heart hurt for them. They were so mean to each other! No wonder they could not make it.

This has had me thinking about how to make a good marriage. Marriage was made from God. It is good. The Bible states that "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD." (Prov. 18:22)

I have been thinking of our roles as women... There are a whole bunch of other areas to talk about the men's roles, but I have a full time job just keeping MY attitude and actions straight. I am not responsible for my husband's actions. I am only responsible for mine. That is enough, for I am sinful through and through.

It is so easy to think that we, as women, know the best and only way to do things "right". And to communicate those "truths" at every opportunity to our husbands. It was a liberating realization to figure out that not only are there more than one way to do something, but that Eric's way can get the same results! Sometimes his way is EVEN BETTER!!! (Gasp!) And that even if it is NOT better... I don't need to open my mouth and point it out to him.

There are several verses about this topic...

Proverbs 19:13 - "...a quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping."

Proverbs 21: 9 and 25: 24- "Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife."

Proverbs 21: 19 - "Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife."

Proverbs 27: 15 - "A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day."

One last verse for the day:

Proverbs 14: 1 - "The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down."

Let us be the type to build our houses up, not tear them down. We are here to serve our families... especially our husbands. Let's support them, love them, and make them feel wonderful even though everyone has flaws. We have our own, and they put up with us, right?


  1. What a beautiful post! I have some much respect for my husband that I never critize what he is doing. I may go back and redo it when he isn't looking but that's my complusion...not his:-)

  2. What a great post. Its a reminder for me to be a little easier on my hubby I know sometimes I can be slightly bossy, and/or quarrelsome, and I surely don't want him to go live in a desert.

  3. I agree. I think Kate was very mean and bitter towards her husband. The sadness of it all is that there are children that were brought into this world BY THEM...They implanted embryos...THEY DID, not God, and they thought they could play God, now these 8 children will live in a broken home, that their parents created.

    Michael Jackson also has 3 children he brought into this world. He paid a woman millions of dollars to give him full custody and had a surrogate for his 3rd child. Theses children also will no have no parents to raise them.......Children are the ones that are hurting in these situations. My heart goes out to these children who were brought into the world by Selfish people who could not share there life completely with another......I pray For God's grace to not harden their little hearts so this cycle is not repeated.....

  4. Proverbs 14:1 Is one of my favorite Scriptures because it reminds me to walk in His way.

    Thank you for sharing on my blog. I really appreciate your thoughts.

  5. Carrie,

    I had many of the same thoughts yesterday...The world views being servants to one another (Husbands and wives) as being weak...I must confess I did watch Jon and Kate the other night and it did make me very sad...We have such a great responsbility on us as parents, and I think sometimes we forget to focus on the marriage...


  6. Just found your website- I am a mother of 4 boys- and when I read you had 9 kids-- I had to stop by and read a bit.
    It is nice to meet other people who feel the need to "protect" their marriage. It is too easy to follow the trend and complain about family life. You are so right! I have much to improve in myself-- that is a full time job-- keeping ME in line. Just wanted to stop by and say HI